The notion that male-male lust for one another may sound scary to some people, and the same may be true for male-male unrequited love. But the truth is it’s okay to have feelings for other people regardless of gender. To act out on it, to explain your love to the other person is a choice you have to make. If can be for the better. It can be for the worse. All that really depends on the reaction the other person may have regarding the situation.

Obviously, there are consequences when a negative reaction occurs. Unfortunately, we’ve seen that in the deaths of Scott Amadure, Matthew Shepard, and most recently, Lawrence King (all of whom were killed after expressing same-sex attraction to their would-be killers).

Therefore some of us, myself included, would rather keep a distance from those we have a crush on out of fear that something would happen. On the other hand if it was a girl crush some of us would be happy to let the girl know that “I like you!”

But there is nothing wrong with having same-sex crushes, nonetheless. You just have to figure out their sexual orientation to know whether or not to come forward. Whereas if he has a girlfriend it’s best to keep distance. If gay or bi and single it shouldn’t be an issue. However we must note that Matthew Shepard’s killers did pass off as gay people to lend Shepard a ride before torturing and killing the college student. But they don’t come often, so it shouldn’t be much of an issue, though it does happen.

Whether or not you would like to tell the choice is yours. No one has to decide for you. And if the person you like rejects you, then, well, it’s their problem. People need to learn how to forgive. Right?